Why this book exists
A focused place to understand what is happening
Rurik is seventy-one, he lives in Stockport, and he has been married to Iyla for forty-five years. She was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease four years ago. She is sixty-nine. She is at home, and he is her carer, and he is good at it in the way men of that generation are good at things: thoroughly, without complaint, and with a system. He came to me because his daughter made him. He does not think coaching is for him. He said so twice. In the first session he described a morning, and somewhere in the middle of it, entirely in passing, as an illustration of how tiring it all is, he said this.
The writing is designed to reduce shame, bring the underlying pattern into view and give you practical ways to respond without pretending that every life follows the same formula.
