Cover of When Your Parent Was the Child by Elia Sal
Family & Childhood

When Your Parent Was the Child

The Wound of Parentification, the Child Who Had to Be the Grown-Up, and the Off Duty Method for Reclaiming Your Own Life

There is a particular childhood that leaves a particular wound, the childhood of the child who had to be the grown-up, who had to parent their own parent, who never got to be a child because someone had to be the adult and it fell to them.
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A focused place to understand what is happening

When Your Parent Was the Child is a compassionate, research-informed self-development book for readers navigating family wounds & inner healing. It helps you understand the pattern beneath the struggle, meet it with less shame, and use clear reflection and practical exercises to move towards reclaiming your own life.

The writing is designed to reduce shame, bring the underlying pattern into view and give you practical ways to respond without pretending that every life follows the same formula.

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