Why this book exists
A focused place to understand what is happening
Before anything else, a word about your safety. If you are living with someone who controls your money, they may also monitor what you read, what you search for, and what is on your phone. A book like this one, found in a bag or a browser history, can be dangerous. So please consider whether it is safe for you to be reading this, and where. Consider a device the other person cannot access. Think about browser history, and about where a physical copy would be kept. And if you are frightened of the person you live with, this book is not the priority; your safety is, and the National Domestic Abuse Helpline is free, confidential, and open at any hour on 0808 2000 247. I also want to say, before anything else, that I am not going to tell you to leave. A.
The writing is designed to reduce shame, bring the underlying pattern into view and give you practical ways to respond without pretending that every life follows the same formula.
