Why this book exists
A focused place to understand what is happening
There is a sentence you have never said aloud, and I am going to say it for you. I am right. They do leave. Whatever anybody tells me, the record is the record, and every person who has known me properly has eventually gone. You are right. That is the first thing, and nobody has ever said it to you, and it is why fifteen years of help has produced nothing except a person who is very good at nodding. Everybody begins by disputing the thing you are right about. They are not going to leave. You are catastrophising. You are being irrational. And you nod, and you privately note that the people saying this have not looked at your history. Your prediction has an outstanding record. It has been correct every time. And no reassurance will ever argue with.
The writing is designed to reduce shame, bring the underlying pattern into view and give you practical ways to respond without pretending that every life follows the same formula.
