Why this book exists
A focused place to understand what is happening
He did everything right, and I want to establish that before anything else, because he has spent two years being told he did not. Wednesday, the good restaurant. His wife across the table. His phone face-down beside the water glass, on silent, and here is the part that matters: he did not touch it. Not once. Not to check the score, not while she was in the loo. Two hours, and the thing lay there like a coaster. And the evening was fine. That is the whole problem, and it took me a long time to understand why. It was fine. The food was good, they talked about the boiler and her sister and a programme they had both watched, they laughed twice, they drove home, and nothing whatsoever went wrong.
The writing is designed to reduce shame, bring the underlying pattern into view and give you practical ways to respond without pretending that every life follows the same formula.
