Why this book exists
A focused place to understand what is happening
She is on a committee she cannot account for. Forty-three, a radiographer, and on Thursday evenings between seven and nine she sits in a community hall discussing the resurfacing of a car park. Two years now. She has no interest in the car park. She does not live near the car park. When her sister asked her, last Christmas, why she was on the committee, she opened her mouth and discovered she did not have an answer, and the absence bothered her for about a week, and then she went to the meeting in January. The strange thing here is not the obvious one. The obvious thing is that she cannot say no, and that is true, and it is the least interesting fact about her and the one she has already read four books about. She knows about boundaries. She could.
The writing is designed to reduce shame, bring the underlying pattern into view and give you practical ways to respond without pretending that every life follows the same formula.
